How To Unlock Your Inner Power?

Humans are gifted with a highly evolved mind, which sets them apart from the rest of the animal kingdom. Mind is not restricted to the brain alone, and is actually a composite whole consisting of the intelligence of the entire body, including the brain. A human mind is capable of perceiving reality in a highly evolved manner, through the combination of its senses and conditioning, but what really makes it special is its ability to conceive realities, or in other words its power of “imagination”. A human mind has the capacity to dream up, and imagine, intricate realities which pave the way for their physical manifestation.

As humans our true ability lies in our power to “dream” and imagine; in our ability to project a new reality in our mind. It does not matter what your IQ is, as a human being each one of us is capable of imagining realities that we desire. Every child, every adult has unique preferences, unique points of view, unique wants, needs and desires. Humans have far more complex preferences and desires than other animals on this planet and so humans have the capacity to create expanded realities at a pace much faster than other creatures.

Unlocking Your Inner Power

In-spite of possessing such an advanced imagination, humans are suffering because they are not aware of their true nature as a “creator”. We desire, and dream, and imagine, but very few of us really “allow” the physical manifestation to flower through because we have learnt to “resist” our own desires. In this article we will discuss on how to unlock your inner power by recognizing your true nature as a “creator”.

You are Not Just the Body – Our body is visible and evident, so it’s natural for us to start associating ourselves with the body. We have a “self image” of ourselves, which is mostly our past, our conditioning and our body image. The reason why we fail to unlock our inner power is because of our limited knowledge of who we really are.

We think we are just the “body mind” organism. We are so engrossed with our “form” identity that we forget our “formless” nature. We forget that we are the “manifested” body and also the “un-manifest” consciousness which is actually the container in which all manifestations come and go. In essence we are the “source” that has created this physical reality, and we are also the temporary creation that takes a human form. We are so identified with the “created” that we complete forget our true nature, and essence, as a “creator”. Recognizing these “two” aspect of who we are, is the beginning of living the wholeness of life.

Allow and You Will Manifest Anything You Can Imagine – Most of us have heard about the law of attraction, in that we can attract any reality that we “think” about. This is true, we can create any reality we want simply by imagining it and “allowing” the manifestation to unfold. The problem is that most of us have strong resistance patterns operating within us, which impedes the manifestation from unfolding.

You can allow any reality to manifest by believing that it will manifest, and by expecting it to manifest. To believe, and to expect, are the two ways in which the mind becomes allowing of the manifestation. If you don’t believe, or expect, a manifestation to take place, then it will not manifest in your physical reality. Now you know why your dreams have not become realities yet, it’s because you don’t really believe that they will manifest, you don’t really expect them to manifest. Be honest with yourself and you will know this.

The Universal Force is Here to Serve You – Actually the universal force, or the higher intelligence, is also essentially “you”. So you are here to help you. The higher intelligence part of you and the “conditioned mind” part of you are the two aspects of “you” in reality. When these two work in harmony, then your existence becomes truly joyful and benevolent.

The “mind” is here to imagine and conceive a reality, and the higher intelligence (the source) is here to manifest the reality. The mind does not have the job of making a reality “happen”, its job is only to imagine, dream, project and prefer. It’s the higher intelligence’s job to manifest the reality and it uses the “law of attraction” to make this happen. But the mind has to “allow” the higher intelligence to bring forth the physical manifestation.

Stop Resisting Your Own Abundance – The simple answer of how to unlock your inner power is simply “stop resisting”. It’s strange, but the only reason why you are not living your dream reality, is because “you” (the mind part of you) is resisting the manifestation in some way. Why would you resist you own abundance? Because you have a lot of limited conditioning within you. You may feel you are not worthy, that you are not good enough, that miracles can’t happen or that life is not “that easy”. These limiting thoughts keep you from allowing the higher intelligence to channel the new reality in place.

Start believing in miracles, start believing in luck, in coincidences, in fairies and in the higher order of well-being. This is a dream reality that you are living in, and anything that you desire can be manifested in this reality. Stop being so “cynical” and stop being so “mindful” about everything. Your job is to desire and then allow the universe to bring forth the manifestation. You are not here to struggle and “work hard” to manifest your reality, you are here to just dream and allow the effortless manifestation. Who you are is an effortless creator. Imagine how much human “effort” would be needed to build a star in the cosmos, which was so effortlessly created by the “source”.

Learning to Let Go

It’s such a paradox that all you need to do to unlock your inner power is to “relax” and let go of resistant thoughts within you. You don’t have to do any visualization techniques or affirmations, you just need to let go of limiting thoughts. Any thought which tells you “this is not possible” is a limiting thought, any thought which tells you “this will take a lot of time to manifest” is a limiting thought, any thought with tells you “I can’t get what I want” is a limiting thought. You are a powerful creator, start living your power by allowing your “formless” intelligence to show you how it can effortlessly manifest anything you can imagine.

Do we inherit personality - Understanding yourself and others

Do we inherit personality

Do we inherit our personalities?
People always ask that question and before i can tell you the answer you first need to know more about personality development.

First of all you must have noticed that in most cases identical twins who inherited almost the same genes have different personalities.

If we inherit our personalities then those twins would have had the same behavior and personality traits, right?

The truth about inheriting our personality

As a newly born child experiences different life events he starts to develop certain desires and drives that guides his behavior later on. For example its very common that the youngest child becomes a showy adult because that defense mechanism would help him maintain the extra attention his parents gave him. 

So we don't inherit our personality traits but we develop them in order to fulfill our needs and the drives that we developed when we were young.

A little child who had very controlling parents might become a very stubborn adult, in this case his stubbornness is the defense mechanism he uses to escape from the controlling parent's will.

In the Solid Self confidence program i said that we don't inherit self confidence too but we learn to become confident if we were encouraged to take risks when we were children.

A girl who felt insecure because her father cheated on her mother might grow up full of distrust towards men and this distrust might take another unconscious form such as fear of darkness or fear of the unknown.

So its pretty clear that we don't inherit our personalities but we learn certain traits in order to help ourselves maintain our psychological stability in the face of life challenges.

If you don't inherit your personality then you are in control!!

The good news about this fact is that it makes you in control of your destiny. After all if you don't inherit your personality then this means that even if you have some bad traits that you dislike you can still do something about them and change them.

In short, you are not bound by your genes and there is always a chance to become what you have always wanted to be.

How to understand someone on a deep level - Understanding yourself and others

How to understand someone on a deep level

Today most people make superficial judgments about others. Some people go even farther by judging others based on one single situation. The biggest mistake those people do is that they consider human beings simple organisms that can be understood in few seconds while in fact understanding someone on a deep level requires a completely different mindset.

The first thing you need to do to understand someone deeply is to eliminate all kind of prejudges, superficial judgments and all other premature conclusions made about that person.

In this article i will tell you how to understand someone on a deep level.

How to understand people

There are few rules that can help you get a better understanding of people which are:

• Behind every action is a positive intention: That man who is a drunkard is not doing so because he is happy that way but he is doing it because there is a deep drive that is motivating him to do so. He might be escaping from his problems or protecting his self worth by avoiding certain responsibilities
• To understand someone you must See the full picture: That's the extension of point number one, if behind every action is a positive intention or a certain drive then you must never judge people unless you get to know more about the full picture. A friend once told me that he has got problems concentrating on his studies, instead of giving him advice right away i started asking him other questions in order to be able to see the complete picture. Sometimes people lack concentration because their subconscious mind wants to protect them from testing their abilities (if they concentrated and took an exam then did bad they will feel worthless). After all the person can still blame his lack of concentration when he gets bad grades and feel better than if he blamed his abilities. How would have i knew these deep facts if i didn't try to see the full picture first?
• Boring people are OK, exciting people have very strong drives: The boring person who does nothing interesting might be the most mentally stable person. Exciting people on the other hand like brilliant ones, geniuses or extremely successful people are usually the ones who have very strong psychological drives that sent them there. For example inferiority can be a very strong drive that leads to overcompensation and thus to great success stories. In the Solid Self confidence program i pointed out that if you understood people on a deeper level you wont feel inferior to them nor you will find that anyone is superior to you even if they were celebrities or authority figures.
• Connect the dots Long ago i used to think of a personality as a collection of many unrelated parts but as i went deeper into psychology i discovered that the personality is formed of one super structure and each personality trait is just a branch that is strongly connected to that main structure. For example a tomboy, or a girl who likes to act like boys might be doing so because she was mistakenly taught that females are inferior to males. As a result she might prefer black dresses because they give her a sense of power over her perceived weakness. This might also let her develop homosexual behavior in order to prevent any man from dominating her and thus proving her fears of being weak true. Of course that's just an example to show you how everything about a person's personality is usually strongly interconnected

Final words about understanding someone

You won't understand someone on a deep level before you learn more about psychology and luckily all the information you need can be found here.

The second thing you must do is to try to connect the dots in order to get an idea of the superstructure forming that person's personality. Once you reach that super structure connecting all other elements to it will be an easy task.

Finally, don't judge people quickly because certainly that would lead to incorrect conclusions.

How to understand people psychology - Understanding yourself and others

How to understand people psychology

How to understand people and their actions?

Long ago before i studied psychology i used to judge people superficially based on their actions just like everyone else does.

For example whenever someone came late to an appointment i used to think that he is not punctual because at this point i wasn't aware yet that procrastination can sometimes be a method of escapement from a task that a person doesn't want to do.

Later on when i started getting deeper into psychology i discovered that each weird action taken by a person can be understood and can make a great sense if it was seen from a different perspective.

In this article i will tell you how to understand people psychology.

Past experiences and understanding people

As the newly born child progresses through life he starts developing certain goals that guides him for the rest of his life. For example a child who was always preferred by his parents might grow up as an attention seeking adult in order to maintain the attention he used to get.

A young girl who saw her father cheating on her mother might develop fear of commitment, fear of men and even become owngenx

So the key to understanding a person's psychology is to know about the goals that he is striving for as a result of the situations he has been through earlier in his life.

Whenever you look at the person's actions from this perspective you will find the behavior that you previously described as weird makes all the sense in the world.

One of the girls i know is a typical tomboy, she plays football, she loves to wear black and most of her friends are guys. From a superficial point of view people describe her as mad, psycho or weirdo but when getting a deeper understanding of the situations she has been through you can easily understand her actions.

As a little child this girl felt unfavored by her father because he wanted a boy instead of a girl. At this point the girl started believing that girls are bad, defective and weak. As a result she unconsciously developed the desire to become as strong as a guy because she hated being weak like other girls. 

Understanding people's superstructures

Long ago i used to think that each person has many different sides of his personality that are not related.

For example i have never managed to think that fear of darkness might be connected to job security or that the preference for black might be connected to earlier childhood experiences.

When i got more understanding of psychology i discovered that the person's personality is like a big super structure that is strongly interconnected. A girl might fear darkness because deep inside her she is feeling insecure in life as a result of seeing her jobless dad spending his time drinking instead of securing the future for the family.

The subconscious mind at this point unconsciously reminds the girl of her insecurity whenever she finds herself in a dark room. One friend sent me a message once telling me that she can't sleep at night because she fears ghosts. When i talked to her i discovered that the feelings of insecurity she experienced as a result of losing her father few months ago was the one responsible for her fear of darkness.

When attempting to understand people psychology you must not separate their actions, habits, the dreams they get and their attitude from each other because all of these things are connected to each other either directly or indirectly.

Understanding people's psychology in few steps

So let me summarize what i said in few points, in order to understand people's personality you need to:

• Look deep beyond actions: Don't just look for actions but try to look at the intentions behind them even if the actions seemed weird
• unmet needs are the key to understanding people: Goals, drives or unmet needs that the person develops at an early age can be the key to understanding that person. Make sure you look at the person's actions through this perspective
• Everything is interconnected: If someone likes to wear great clothes then this might be connected to his self image problem which could be rooted to the rejections he got from the other sex earlier in his life (just an example not a rule)

Is this everything?
of course not, understanding people's psychology is big topic that can't be covered in one article. Go through the below links if you want to know more about people's psychology.

How to understand people better - Understanding yourself and others

How to understand people better

A friend of mine had intense hatred towards her job, she used to explain to me how much she suffers every morning on her way to the office and how horrible she feels at the end of each weekend.

Whenever my friend told her friends or relatives about her problem they always gave her the same answer, "Be strong, everyone is working why do you want to be different"

Sadly their answer reflects how poorly they understand her because if they knew anything about psychology they would have never said that. In this article I will teach you how to understand people better by telling you how to avoid the common mistakes everyone does when trying to understand someone else.

We are not the same!!

"Be strong, everyone is working why do you want to be different"

This answer stems from the false belief that states that everyone is identical while the truth is that each one of us sees the world differently based on his own past experiences.

If dogs ran after a six years old child he might grow up fearing dogs while if the parents of another guy bought him a small pet dog when he was six then he might grow up loving dogs.

If the second guy saw the first feeling uncomfortable because a dog was passing by he might think that he is a coward!! The main reason the second guy thought that the first one was a coward is that he judged him based on his own belief system. For the second guy dogs are not harmful so why on earth would someone fear them?

The first fatal mistake that can prevent you from understanding people is judging them based on your own belief system.

To understand people you must feel their emotions

The "be strong" advice stems from another false belief which states that we all have the same level of tolerance towards different events but the truth is that we are completely different. A person might love to stay at home while another could suffocate if he spent few hours without interacting with people.

In order to understand people you don’t just need to put yourself in their shoes but you need to feel the emotions they experience.

When I spoke to my friend who hates her job I found out that deep inside her subconscious mind freedom was valued the most and because she associated desk jobs with lack of freedom she couldn’t stand going to an office from 9 to 5 just like the rest of people.

I encouraged her to quit her job and she is now happy doing free lance training and coaching.

He is an idiot

One of the most common mistakes people do when attempting to understand each other is labeling them if they didn’t understand the intention behind their behaviour.

For example you could label a person dumb for doing something that appears non logical to you but as soon as you understand the reason behind his actions you might find that you were mistaken.

Calling someone idiot, mad or nuts is sometimes nothing more than a way to help yourself become familiar with his acts. We humans don’t like vague things and that’s why we rush to define everyone’s actions from our perspective just to feel that we understand them.

In my book The ultimate guide to maintaining a healthy relationship i explained how many couples fight just because they assume the intentions of each other incorrectly. If they were to discuss these problems face to face they would have had less fights.

If I were asked to summarize the art of understanding people into few words I would have said that in order to understand people better you must live their past, feel their emotions and think using their minds.

How to understand people - Understanding yourself and others

How to understand people

I get lots or emails from people who want to understand others who treat them in a strange way. Most of the psychological and relationship problems those people ask me about result from lack understanding of people.

After all if you believe that someone hates you while in fact he is jealous of you then you might mess up your relationship with him instead of dealing with him the right way.

Lack of understanding of others cannot just limit the potential of your social skills but it can also lower your self esteem and affect your well being! In this article I will explain how you can understand people so that you can have better relationships and a higher self esteem.

Why are they doing so?

Whenever we find anybody doing actions that we don’t understand we rush to label him or to make conclusions that are based on our own belief systems. Here are few examples that shows how skewed your judgment of others can be as a result of lack of understanding of their own beliefs and motives:

• Someone who exercises everyday: You might believe that this guy is extremely persistent or that he is self motivated, and while you got a part of the truth still the main motive behind his commitment to exercise may be a poor body image problem!! 
• The hard worker: he is workaholic and always spends extra hours at work!! He is really motivated to work! But who told you that the truth is that he doesn’t have a social life and that’s why he tries convince himself that he loves work so that he distracts himself from the fact that he doesn’t have anywhere to go to other than the company premises? 
• Someone who picks perfect clothes: This girl is always on fashion and everybody loves her style but do you know that lack of self confidence might one of the big reasons people buy branded clothes? 
• The boss who always shouts: The guy must be really aggressive, he always shouts at everyone but do you know that this aggression might be a result of a stored anger that he can’t get rid of otherwise? If he has big problems in his social life or with his wife he might project the anger he feels onto the employees!!

Why do we get people wrong

We always incorrectly understand people because We:

• Depend on our own belief system to judge them: He treated me badly because he thinks that I am a loser while in fact he treated you badly because he had a bad day!!!
• Lack self confidence: She didn’t say hi because I am unattractive while in fact she was worried about a problem to the extent that she didn’t even notice you
• Lack of knowledge: He is overweight because he loves food while the fact is that he is depressed and gets his relief from food!!

In my book The ultimate guide to maintaining healthy relationships i explained how the number one reason for fights can be lack of understanding of each other!! If you managed to find a way to understand other people correctly you will have much more tolerance for their actions.

How to understand people correctly

If you want to understand people then you must first learn about psychology, and luckily 2knowmsyelf has got all the resources that you need.

Secondly you must put aside your belief system when trying to understand someone’s behavior and instead focus on his belief system. For example if someone didn't talk to you much you might assume that he is arrogant (your own belief system) while in fact he might be a shy person who don't talk much during the first few meetings!!

You incorrectly judged that person because you used your own belief system to evaluate him and that’s why you made conclusions that matched your inner world and not ones that matched reality!!

Finally you need to build self confidence because lack of self confidence will let you interpret every single move people make as a response to one of the flaws you think you are suffering from (example: They didn’t call me because they think I am boring).

Follow these three advice and you will have a solid understanding of people.

How to understand myself - Understanding yourself and others

How to understand myself

The main reason I developed waytoknowmyself is to help people understand themselves more so that they can live betters lives. I get lots of questions from people who want to understand themselves and usually I try to answer them by drawing their attention to a very important concept in self understanding which is called the system concept.

If you are one of the people who have the question How to understand myself in their minds then read this article.

Self understanding and the system concept

Josh has big problems in his work because he always arrives late. He has always been trying to arrive on time but his efforts were useless. When we take a closer look into josh’s life we will find that the main reason he arrives late is that he wakes up late everyday.

But why does josh wake up late everyday? By taking another look we find that he stays up until 3 am in the morning everyday. This sounds logical but why would someone do so?

Josh is addicted to social networking websites and he never feels like wanting to sleep while browsing them. This sounds like a superficial analysis to josh's case but when we examine the reasons that made him an addict to these websites we find that josh has always felt less worthy than his friends and so he spends the whole night on these sites trying to catch the attention of others and to inflate his personal importance!!! ( See how bad habits might be resulting from psychological problems in my book The ultimate guide to break any bad habit)

So the main reason josh arrives late to work is that he feels worthless!! When analyzing someone’s emotions or when trying to understand yourself more you must look at the whole system instead of just examining one element, And this is what the system concept is all about

The system concept and Understanding yourself

Josh’s case is not unique, we all have certain behaviors that we don’t understand and that are affecting our daily lives in a bad way.

Usually when we try to analyze problems we look at superficial reasons (just as josh thought that he arrives late to work only because he sleeps late) but when taking a deeper look at the whole system we will be able to understand ourselves more, get rid of the problems that we face and live better lives.

If you are asking yourself now what is the next step you should do to get more self understanding then my answer would be ,reading. The more you read about psychology, self help and personal development the more you will see the full picture and the more you will understand yourself.